Reckon your REFUGE!

= the state of being safe or sheltered from pursuit, danger, or difficulty.
Refuge is an escape from one thing may be we cannot face to the other thing which may be gives us peace or make us feel safe. Safe is all what we want to feel. Security is what we want. We humans fear too much, hence we have this need to feel safe constantly.
With the series of disappointment , hurt, failure, our source of refuge keeps changing, also may be with age it does too.
All of us seek refuge in something or the other. It may be a person ( friends, spouse, parents, children) ,God, it could be music, art, poetry, travel, books, movies, gyming, gaming, gossiping,slumbering, slogging at work, savings, bank balance, lavish shopping spree, degrees, medals, fame, material gains, addiction, etc,etc. Phew!!! It’s endless number of things.
All these things may give us peace and safety but, it is all temporary (ooi ma!!! Too philosophical? Naaahh!!). All this to me is hiding but not sheltering from danger. We run from one burrow to another all our life. Seeking safety from danger around us. When all the danger is within us.
Dangers like misunderstanding, ignorance, ego, needless hurtful talks and comments, lie, anger, rigidity, pointing fingers, lie, self obsession, false self identity, superiority, animosity. You name it we do it, without a second thought.
Danger is within us, then how can we get peace from an outside source?
The real refuge I say is within us, do away all the dangers within and you are safe everywhere and trust me from evrything ,then- ‘Almighty becomes your compass and your soul your Google map.’

……..à suivre!!!

..dhishkyaau..dhishoom…!!!!

Areyy sunn naa.. pata chala… kya??? Woh hai naa 203 waale Sharma ji..wunki beti..haa wahi pehle number waali? haan haan.. Sunna tha chakkar chal raha hai, hogaya… ‘DIVORCE’…. Waaaahhh! One more new juicy gossip.Sooooooo much fun I tell you. Mazza aagaya!!! Aj khaanaa jyada jaayega pait mein..Strange… But true isn’t it???

Majority of us discuss someone’s personal life without having slightest knowledge on it. Dude!!… On second thoughts, why have knowledge???  Remember ‘GREAT MINDS DISCUSS IDEAS,  AVERAGE MINDS DISCUSS EVENTS,  SMALL MINDS DISCUSS PEOPLE’ said Eleanor Roosevelt. I say  ‘you choose… your mind’. And by the way how does anyone’s personal life affect us?….. Ohhh!!! Ohhh!!! Oh!!! Entertainment!!! Entertainment!!! Entertainment!!! Is it??? Chalo phir thik hai. Kuch toh entertainment hona chaiye life main. Woh bhi free free free.

Divorces pe essay nai likhna.Nor is that I wanna favour any gender. Or speak for and against it. Divorces these days are too common for whatever reasons or for no reason at all. It is possibly one of the most devastating decision of any couple’s life. It affects direct families and children. The shocking rise in rates of divorces, is questioning the very base of institution of marriage. Also affecting the social structures on the whole.                            

              Marraige is a beautiful institution.  Which enables two people involved grow, learn, nurture. Becoming the two most important pillars and foundation of having a family. Before deciding on marriage couples should not decide the circumstances, because circumstances are different post marriage. Keep it real,practical and not fanciful like hindi movies. I mean like those Barjatiya movies. LOL

             Moreover ‘divorcee mahila’ ko humarey sabhya  Bhartiya samajh main bohat I mean really bohat respect dee jaati hai. Ke bas aap poocho hee mat. Kahin  bhi jaao..toh khuss poos ‘ divorcee hai??’..’divorcee hai??’… ‘divorcee hai??’.. What the hell…alien nai, insaan hai. No one bloody hell call names to men.

Men get their prospective bride in a blink of an eye lid ( kabhi kabhi back to back do teen shaadiya…wah). Women are just pushed into a marriage, if the guy is rich or  poor. Bas mil gaya ladka kara do shaadi.I also think men are weaker emotionally than women ( mard ko dard nai hota,  agar ho bhi toh, who cares??? Kaun sunnta hai bechaarey ki).

According to me it’s not only a man and a wife bond.  But every beautiful bond is not easy. Actually anything beautiful in life is not easy. Hate is easy, Love isn’t. Rude is easy, Polite isn’t. Hurt is easy, Nurture isn’t. Letting Go is easy, Holding On isn’t. At the end it’s between you and yourself. Not between you and others. ‘What you seek. Is seeking you’- Rumi.

We are what we speak, above all what we speak for others, defines us and not them.’ BE A VOICE, NOT AN ECHO.’ Get a life mahn!!!! Seriously bro B-)