Reckon your REFUGE!

= the state of being safe or sheltered from pursuit, danger, or difficulty.
Refuge is an escape from one thing may be we cannot face to the other thing which may be gives us peace or make us feel safe. Safe is all what we want to feel. Security is what we want. We humans fear too much, hence we have this need to feel safe constantly.
With the series of disappointment , hurt, failure, our source of refuge keeps changing, also may be with age it does too.
All of us seek refuge in something or the other. It may be a person ( friends, spouse, parents, children) ,God, it could be music, art, poetry, travel, books, movies, gyming, gaming, gossiping,slumbering, slogging at work, savings, bank balance, lavish shopping spree, degrees, medals, fame, material gains, addiction, etc,etc. Phew!!! It’s endless number of things.
All these things may give us peace and safety but, it is all temporary (ooi ma!!! Too philosophical? Naaahh!!). All this to me is hiding but not sheltering from danger. We run from one burrow to another all our life. Seeking safety from danger around us. When all the danger is within us.
Dangers like misunderstanding, ignorance, ego, needless hurtful talks and comments, lie, anger, rigidity, pointing fingers, lie, self obsession, false self identity, superiority, animosity. You name it we do it, without a second thought.
Danger is within us, then how can we get peace from an outside source?
The real refuge I say is within us, do away all the dangers within and you are safe everywhere and trust me from evrything ,then- ‘Almighty becomes your compass and your soul your Google map.’

……..à suivre!!!

If…..

…you can be a nice person to at least one person you have lived beautifully

….you can be soft to at least one person you have a heart

…you can be kind to at least one person you are a human

…you can make at least one person smile you are a delight

…you can show faith in at least one person you have given chances to possibilities

…you can drop all your fears in front of one person once indeed at least you loved truly!

After all we all live in IF’s (conditions) and BUT’s (reason)…

Just that these few genuine IF’s will create less IF’s and more WHY NOT’ s?

Definitely more power within and life around. It restores the faith in our being because

No One Is You And That Is Your Power!

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I’m glad to announce my Youtube Channel-

Bakkbakk Jay

Happy Watching:)

Someone please find me a Sarciologist…

“I need treatment ya.. I have this disorder to be on the face, I also have this problem wherein maximum time I say what’s on my mind (maximum time good, once a while reality check..hehe),  I have these infections like to be kind, simple,helpful, patient, understanding, selfless (I try to be), thoughtful,calm, doting person.

When I see so many of them…

They say when they don’t mean

They say what they mean behind their back

They also insult women and people in general

They are irritated, abusive most of the time

They are rushing to be first everywhere no matter what

They are show off

This is such a normal behaviour!!

I’m appalled with the increasing insensitivity,  oh sorry I need to be treated,  in fact my behaviour should be shocking for them.. Hmmm I understand..

It is so much fun to push people when in que. It is sense of personal satisfaction to bitch about someone. It  is so wonderful to scream at weak, poor. It is an achievement to be as fake as artificial fur😂. It is extraordinary to be cold in this age of global warming. And to taunt someone oh my god.. Don’t ask! It’s a feeling to cherish😝. To insult is like a cakewalk,  sugarcoated words are like a must to get selfish interests  done. The golden words (please, sorry,  thank-you) kept buried deep inside as treasures you see, they are golden after all. The  poor indifference curve, it is feeling out of place somehow😂😂 as the indifference is now art of curving people or sorry art of loving people. With hairlessness, carelessness is a bonus guys with coming of so much adulteration, can’t say no to it.

So how do I treat myself?

How do I…

Stop being infected with

CALMNESS#POISE #GRACE#VALUES

Stop being touched by

KIND#GENUINE #WORDS#ACTION

Stop being attracted to

SIMPLE#HONEST#WARM#SELFLESS#SOULS

That’s a real task..( as I never did)

To pretend,

To fake,

To please people!

If all these are infections then I want to  remain infected all my life”

TO BE CONTINUED in next post…

UNTIL THEN KEEP RADIATING THAT INFECTIOUS SMILE…..

BE THE VIRUS

LOL

Behna Blog (BB)- PREAMBLE.

Meri (my) behno (sisters)!!!  Breakfree!! Loosen up! Gear up! RAISE YOUR VOICE! Time for  some crazy chit chat. May be Some serious stuff as well.

The whole idea behind Behna blog (BB) is that why don’t we question? Especially women ( men will never question, so they are not in the picture! Poor guys look  better answering them, hehe) . Questioning to me is like my birthright, because until and unless I don’t question how would I get clarity. Also how would I’ll  be sure that what I know is correct. Wake up sistas!

question ! Get your thinking caps on!

BB  rules-

That it has no rules.

Just damn all! Say what you like.

Be yourself.

Talk as if no one’s listening.

Don’t hold back.

Why should men read bb-

It’s simple because we are the feminine and we are the most powerful, hence it’s safer  to be nice to powerful and bow in humility and accept that they are jugheads without us… Hehe!.Anyway…

 

What I meant –

Women are powerful, in ways different than men. And thus to bridge the difference, They should read.Accept and respect power in all forms, Men should learn that.


I am  looking forward-

Connecting  women across the world, irrespective of backgrounds or degrees or knowledge.

(It’s all about learning to speak up, all that matters!)

exchange of new unconventional ideas, perspective, dimensions, experiences,thoughts. Arguments, debates.

To Gaining clarity and reasoning. To better our understanding, to live in the highest standards of our being.

Learning about new cultures ( interests me alot).

Discussing different facets of woman.


Dedicated to-

To the spirit of womanhood across the globe.

Note of Gratitude to My Reader Friends:)

Hello my dear reader friends.How are you guys doing? Me doing super. I feel glad and proud that I have made successful 10 posts, taa daa in span of 11months (which is an achievement for me guys). Woo hoo!! Thank you soooooo much for your time and support,it is encouraging. 


Thank you to all my friends who helped me in one way or the other, sometimes being my editor ,at times answering my questions, helping me get better. Bas ab ro padungee, ittee khusheeeeeeee.LOL.


NOTE SPECIALLY TO MY FEMALE READERS-

I have this suggestion wherein  I  want your help, guidance , views,  thoughts to start this monthly series blog titled BEHNA ( sister) BLOGS. Wherein we talk just about anything and everything that matters to us. Just about whatever on earth. We can talk from anything  dead serious to just about any nonsense.

like-

* Why is that men are called ‘male chauvinist pigs’?

*Why women are so obsessed with how they are looking?

*Why is that ‘ek aurat hee dusri aurat ki dushman hoti hai’ ( one woman is the enemy of another woman)?

*Why is the percentage of women so less in military in India?

*How the hell does nagin ( television series in India) get highest TRPs?

*Why is that recently senseless lyrics sell in Indian cinema?


Behna Chup Na Rehna ( sisters don’t stay quiet)!

Just flood in with questions, suggestions, discussions. Damn with every worry, judgments ,repercussions. Just pen down whatever!


To – bakkbakkingjay@gmail.com


…aao adopt karein!

‘Unless you can truly enhance their lives, you should not have childern’-Sadhguru. True that !! A child is a bundle of joy, a promise for a potential better future. A child is a responsibility, that too a freaking serious one. Cannot afford to be unsure. Raising a child, is raising our consciousness at every level of our day to day being.

So my post today is on ‘adoption’.  Why adoption,  because Bharat main no one really gives it a thought. Khudko nai sambhaal saktey sala!!! ADOPTION..LOL!!!  Itnaa sab mehanga hai…baap re…this inflation suckssss!!!  Aur haan..’ Paraaye Khoon Ko Waaris Kaun Banayega?’ aur ”haila!!! adoption kyu?” Keeping all this aside. Why is that we are still not open  about it??? I ask each one of us. I am talking about non-compulsive adoption. Wherein a couple should give a thought of adopting atleast one child and  have one biological child, jaise ” hum do humarey do.”

Dude am I making sense???? Please comment, exchange your views. Waise sach main kisiko padi nai!!! Why is that the idea of adoption not only hidden in thick books of wise words,but stays there only collecting dust. We are no less than puppets or animals kept in zoo where the ring master is the society governing our life.. Isn’t it? So how does one cut this cultural and social web of being monitored?

http://cara.nic.in/InnerContent.aspx?Id=140#Register Online

(Hoping that someone will consider:)

                       I can’t do everything but I can do something. Something for the four legged being. Animals may not literally speak. But they do speak language of love, which is easy to understand.  Wherein words are often misunderstood. Looking after an animal in our vicinity and around. If I see an animal abuse, stop it, and don’t you dare forget to beat the shit of that coward. Doing small things like feeding them, giving water or just stroke with love to these wonderful furry souls. Makes you feel so wonderful about our own selves. Trust me dude… Just try it. And if you can adopt one and foster… Voilà !!!!! You are in for an affair of a lifetime,  no break up, no make up. Just everlasting selfless love and warmth.  You know what ‘ The Best Things In Life Are Rescued’.

http://bluecrossofindia.org

(dont be a vagabond, be a Bond.. James Bond. Rescue. Foster. Care. DON’T WALK AWAY)

Adoption isn’t only claiming over a life. It is about nurture, care, selfless love and sincere commitment for a  better world. Fostering not only young ones of a being but also inanimate being . Yes, why not inculcate a simple habit like watering  a plant around you. I mean isn’t that wow… To see the beauty around you grow,  with your simple effort.

Effort is what makes all the difference. Difference in some one’s life, in environment, in society. Also very important is to adopt a lifestyle, a positive attitude and values which takes us closer to our own selves. Adopt a value oriented approach towards life more than price oriented. After all, ‘ A Little Effort Is More Memorable, Than Expensive Gifts’

(P.S. Inputs by Shera and Chonty..thank you guys:)

REASON….to RISE and SHINE!

I question alot. I reason alot, to find answers in my conquest to live my life more fully and more meaningfully.Question my intent, reactions,  words, action, inaction, change. Questiong is nothing but reasoning yourself, your thought process,  which in turn becomes your choices.It is INTENTIONAL LIVING,  meaning making choices for your life based on your greatest values,  not on the habits of others. Questioning the choices and choosing with a reason.Which you are solely responsible for.

‘Believe Nothing, No Matter Where You Read It Or Who Has Said It, Not Even If I Said it, Unless It Agrees With Your Own Reason And Your Own Common Sense’ I love this saying by Gautam Buddha. Humble and thought provoking.

                           To live is a beautiful thing in itself.  But as long as we live we must keep learning to live. Learning to grow, to rationalise, to prioritise, to have a perspective, to persist, to be thoughtful, to nurture,to believe,to aim, to rise above, to hold on, to let go, to stand up,  to look beyond. Learning to be a sport, to develop a healthy sense of humour, to be aware, to stay fit,to be balanced, to be polite,to be poised, to be patient, to reflect . Learning to be a more newer and more youer with every new dawn.To live in the best possible version of ourselves. I believe each one of us, are the most beautiful,  unique being created.  We rarely dare to delve within!!!        

                  Dare to be you!! ( upcoming blog).

                  So is living an art? Yes it is, I say. Art is beautiful, thoughtful , boundless, pleasant, hardwork, personification,  thought provoking and the art is artist himself. Your life should be your work of art and no one elses. Doesn’t matter how many flaws it has. The idea is to learn, grow, pick the best, move on to next level.We all are, our own artist in our own unique way painting the picture of our lives. Adding a little more beauty around in our own way. Just make sure the picture you paint is worth every choices you make in life. 

                      Rise and Shine with every better choices, with rational thinking. Own it. Live it. No regrets. More contentment. More happiness. Stay Blessed.Stay Joyful…. mwuahhh😘

(P.S. Reasons don’t really work when its emotions. For me also when its family and friendship .Also dieting doesn’t seem to work, when it’s blogging. I have been hogging mahnnn…for bloggginggg.. So much to thinkkk…even more to eattt.But it’s worth it😊)