Reckon your REFUGE!

= the state of being safe or sheltered from pursuit, danger, or difficulty.
Refuge is an escape from one thing may be we cannot face to the other thing which may be gives us peace or make us feel safe. Safe is all what we want to feel. Security is what we want. We humans fear too much, hence we have this need to feel safe constantly.
With the series of disappointment , hurt, failure, our source of refuge keeps changing, also may be with age it does too.
All of us seek refuge in something or the other. It may be a person ( friends, spouse, parents, children) ,God, it could be music, art, poetry, travel, books, movies, gyming, gaming, gossiping,slumbering, slogging at work, savings, bank balance, lavish shopping spree, degrees, medals, fame, material gains, addiction, etc,etc. Phew!!! It’s endless number of things.
All these things may give us peace and safety but, it is all temporary (ooi ma!!! Too philosophical? Naaahh!!). All this to me is hiding but not sheltering from danger. We run from one burrow to another all our life. Seeking safety from danger around us. When all the danger is within us.
Dangers like misunderstanding, ignorance, ego, needless hurtful talks and comments, lie, anger, rigidity, pointing fingers, lie, self obsession, false self identity, superiority, animosity. You name it we do it, without a second thought.
Danger is within us, then how can we get peace from an outside source?
The real refuge I say is within us, do away all the dangers within and you are safe everywhere and trust me from evrything ,then- ‘Almighty becomes your compass and your soul your Google map.’

……..à suivre!!!

Distill to be Still.

Kaapi..??? anyone for filter (drip brew) coffee!!! Though I like chai (tea). But, this post isn’t about either. LOL. It is about FILTERS!!! Oh! No, please. Not snapchat. No instagram. No WhatsApp filters. Nor any sort of filters applied to make pictures fanciful, clicked from our gadgets.

Have you ever thought of pictures taken by our eyes? Yes, our eyes is one important feeding data rod.

If you didn’t know…

Our eye works like a camera. The iris and the pupil control how much light to let into the back of the eye, much like the shutter of a camera. Isn’t that amazing?

The brain is instrumental in helping us see as it translates the image into something we can understand. The brain does all the perception. What we see is the rum of the mind and not the eyes.

So, our real filter is our brain. It filters the image captured through the lens of our eyes according to our understanding.

Eyes on the Brain.
What the Brain Tells the Eye
Do we see what we want to see?

Have you ever picked up a gallon milk bottle that you thought was full when it was empty instead? You realize your mistake as soon as you begin to lift the bottle because your hand and bottle fly over your head. Your brain assumed that the bottle was heavier than it was and thus instructed your muscles to exert more force than was necessary. Before we make any voluntary movement, a great deal of planning, which is largely unconscious, takes place in our brain.
The same is true for perception.

Since our eyes sense what is around us, it’s easy to think that our visual system is quiescent (inactive) unless stimulated by something from the outside. However, what we see is governed to a large extent by what we expect to see. As with our movements, our brain sets us up in advance for what we will see.

Like in a crowd you will always locate a known face easily🎃. Say, when I go shopping somehow I fish all the whites kept in any damn corner. The attraction for that colour, you see👕. In a table full of pastries,my eyes halt only on my favourite chocolate pastry 🍰. While taking a walk I wouldn’t miss any trees which has flowers. Love for flowers,huh!

Often, I just pass by someone I know and not even notice them. Either I am occupied in my mind with some thoughts or I plainly wanna ignore that great personality😂

Many a times when i’m searching for that particular dress which I want it so badly. The entire house is upside down, I still don’t find it. Why?? Because I have given it in the laundry/ friend borrowed it/ with tailor. Eeehhh…yaahh!!! Dumb me!!😭

The other day it so happened. I was annoyed with the fact that I have been complaining to the building authorities about hygiene not maintained in the vicinity and still no strict action has been taken to look into the matter. Those few days wherever I go, see only trash, piles of more trash just wherever my eyes go and I’m like…grrr😭

The whole point here, i’m trying to make is that, what we look for, through our lenses (eyes) is what we get. Be it, out of choices, habits, emotions, consciously or unconsciously.

Our brain/ mind plays a major role in giving definition, meaning to those images in our lenses, which in turn defines many things and aspects of ourselves, gradually mould our lives too.

The journey of our lenses to our senses….

… to be continued (next post), where we talk about filters.

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It would be wonderful to know any of those incidents where, you found something, you were exactly looking for. See you in the comment box.

Until then me saying..be rare, be you.. And I’m like..

As…

NO ONE IS YOU AND THAT IS YOUR POWER!!!

Personal Note & BV Details#05

My dear parents and reader friends , the series of  blog posts  on being a parent  is all my personal experience. This blog marks the closure to my series of 05 blog posts. It is my growth, transition, discovery. As I penned in my introductory blog, it’s my journey within.  From a 1st time mommy to a person, may be who has become a lot  calmer, a lot  more sorted, a lot more  human, a lot more  content, a lot more grateful, above all a lot more ME!

I write on topics which are close to my heart. I try  to practise what I write, write  what I believe  in.  One of it, is Bala Vihar ( BV).  It’s the need for every child, irrespective  of any religion or community.


Greeting each other with a Hari Om! Jai Jinendra! Sat Sri Akal! Jai Shree Ram! Saying more of any one of these  would not make me less of my community or more of other. Also BV doesn’t  promote or support one particular  deity or any particular religion. The only statement-  is maximum happiness for maximum time, for maximum people!!!


Rather it will strengthen the roots of any religion for that matter become more acceptable towards people of other  community and grow together as a family around the world.


BV is a way to strengthen their roots and keep their heart to family, values, culture and realise  the essence of life.


Also it is absolutely  Free! Free! Free! It just costs your  time and effort to spare 90mins every  sunday mornings ( I understand sundays are lazy days). I see it  as a day to get charged up, it is like time to collect  all the super  powers within. All set to cast a spell on the world with your super power.


I will be lying if I say-  I did not dream of my child performing on stage or coming on television or getting medals or scoring 1st in sports and academics. We all do😁 It’s  just  that I realised (off late)  there is more to life than all this.  


I will  also be lying if don’t  mention that  when I was sick ( recently) all that mattered was how well he spoke to me, how patient and polite he was to me, how well he took care of me ( thoda over hogaya shayad, but it’s  a fact!). As a parent  we must  teach our  children what  actually  matters !


With so much of negativity around  it is important  to nurture positivity in our  child from childhood , as to they become responsible citizens and make not only us proud,  but live humbly proud of all what each one of us is blessed with.


Below is the link  of BV centre across Mumbai-

https://www.google.co.in/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.chinmayamissionmumbai.com/&ved=0ahUKEwiTtKLv2vfUAhXJrY8KHR5dA10QFghuMAU&usg=AFQjCNFGY5EN90WT9CV_WkBvtw0r_Bp9Dg


Chinmaya Mission official website-

www.chinmayamission.com

(It’s  a worldwide  NGO, they have centres across the world, you can always  google the centres  closest  to your house).


(P.S. – A heartfelt thank you to Swami Nirbhayanandji and Hems)


Here comes my blog stars!!!

REASON….to RISE and SHINE!

I question alot. I reason alot, to find answers in my conquest to live my life more fully and more meaningfully.Question my intent, reactions,  words, action, inaction, change. Questiong is nothing but reasoning yourself, your thought process,  which in turn becomes your choices.It is INTENTIONAL LIVING,  meaning making choices for your life based on your greatest values,  not on the habits of others. Questioning the choices and choosing with a reason.Which you are solely responsible for.

‘Believe Nothing, No Matter Where You Read It Or Who Has Said It, Not Even If I Said it, Unless It Agrees With Your Own Reason And Your Own Common Sense’ I love this saying by Gautam Buddha. Humble and thought provoking.

                           To live is a beautiful thing in itself.  But as long as we live we must keep learning to live. Learning to grow, to rationalise, to prioritise, to have a perspective, to persist, to be thoughtful, to nurture,to believe,to aim, to rise above, to hold on, to let go, to stand up,  to look beyond. Learning to be a sport, to develop a healthy sense of humour, to be aware, to stay fit,to be balanced, to be polite,to be poised, to be patient, to reflect . Learning to be a more newer and more youer with every new dawn.To live in the best possible version of ourselves. I believe each one of us, are the most beautiful,  unique being created.  We rarely dare to delve within!!!        

                  Dare to be you!! ( upcoming blog).

                  So is living an art? Yes it is, I say. Art is beautiful, thoughtful , boundless, pleasant, hardwork, personification,  thought provoking and the art is artist himself. Your life should be your work of art and no one elses. Doesn’t matter how many flaws it has. The idea is to learn, grow, pick the best, move on to next level.We all are, our own artist in our own unique way painting the picture of our lives. Adding a little more beauty around in our own way. Just make sure the picture you paint is worth every choices you make in life. 

                      Rise and Shine with every better choices, with rational thinking. Own it. Live it. No regrets. More contentment. More happiness. Stay Blessed.Stay Joyful…. mwuahhh😘

(P.S. Reasons don’t really work when its emotions. For me also when its family and friendship .Also dieting doesn’t seem to work, when it’s blogging. I have been hogging mahnnn…for bloggginggg.. So much to thinkkk…even more to eattt.But it’s worth it😊)

…Let’s Get Rolling!!!!

…. thoughts travel far..words are secondary..  words if used correctly can create magic. This journey of words hopefully create some magic somewhere . Not only words and mind, this journey is  about each one of us who believe in themselves,  in posssiblities, who trying to find answers,  simplfying things,  questioning,  reasoning,  achieving,  developing, wishing,  aspiring, inspiring, being a positive change, in having goals,  to add a bit more beauty, quality, bring a difference around. Basically, who are actually living and probably like a wake up call to those who are just surviving.

I am no one to teach nor I am here to preach,  I am here to reach the hearts through the things close to my heart, in the most real,  unadulterated, raw form( no fakeness, no flowery,dreamy language,  just straight forward,  will try to keep it unbias). An endeavour to create a little more thoughtfulness,  mindfulness,  a bit more sensitivity (not forgetting practicality), getting a bit more alive, ” To leave the world in better condition in which you and I found” in words of Mr.Baden Powell.

 

..journey…discover…the ME!

  • Like every other new role in life, there is always something new to learn from it.As I embark upon being a Blogger, looking forward to discover a new dimension to my personality… exploring the untravelled roads within, getting in to the depths of my being, unravelling the different side to Me, beginning the journey of getting closer to myself. The Journey Of My Mind in combination with various responsiveness to stimuli..ha ha..’ thoughts travel far’ someone told me,they do, I belive it too. Let’s see how far….
  • (P.S…Blogger bannu?? Nai bannu?? Bannu?? Nai bannu?? Aur FINALLY annarth ho hee gaya..bann gayi ‘BLOGGER’… Wah!!! Khushi ke annsu..mummy…what an emosonal moment..THANK YOU to Chonty and Shera for it and Mr.Ad. Man a.k.a Cokroch for the name[bakkbakkingjayshree].. abhi sab pede baaton.)