…rang de basanti or dance basanti??

My dear pals I have been a bit too disturbed to be thinking about anything else other than, ‘PoK’, ‘ Uri Attacks’, ‘ 19 Martyrs, ‘Surgical Strike’. I am an extremely sensitive person. With age and experience I worked on it, so that it doesn’t really take over me… Like really???? Yes dude!!!!!! Anyway.

When I was an adolescent I used to watch these men clad in olive camouflage uniform, armed with weapons ( I am like haila!! ye asli hai?) on television. I see them only on news channels. See them in No Man’s Land, in jungle, in desert,in snow. And made me wonder do these men really exist???

Born and brought up in Bandra where we have grown up seeing celebrities, actors, actresses around. So I was sure they are just like us. Just that acting and glamour is their profession which makes them popular. Whereas, I see these men in uniform. I am like these men are not for real. I mean why would anyone on earth by choice, leave his family, friends, relatives, social life. Leave all the comfort of his home. Abandon just about everything. Also give away their lives. And that is their profession? Are you kidding me?

I wonder what makes them choose something like this. Why choose this? Choose to live every day as their last. I am sure their Dna not same like us. We civilians crib to stand for National Anthem, when played in cinema hall.. LOL! So as an adolescent and (obviously) till now and always they remain Super Heroes to me definitely the real ones, yet so unreal to me.

I came across this beautiful article on The Real Super Heroes and their not so ordinary life, dealing with ordinary emotion.

( Army Officer’s Wife On What It’s Like To Marry A Man Willing To Give Up His Life For The Country

https://www.scoopwhoop.com/What-Is-It-Like-To-Be-Married-To-An-Army-Man/#W.c4515bqft/?ref=WA )

Oh Yes! Dance basanti. Mera bachha haai!!! Dancing, Signing, Acting Reality Shows main participate karey. Mera Bachhaaaaaaaa!!!! Naam roshan karey. Make me also famous. Wow on teeee veeee. I and my bachha are stars. Mommy (daydreaming)…Ek do daily soaps. Jaise Balika Vadhu. Then hindi or regional movies. Actor ka tag lag jaaye. Shahrukh – Katrina bann jaaye. Life set!!!

How we get fooled by these so called Reality Shows fad. The shows dude seriously, only the channels and the judges earn a fortune. Leaving the participants and winners with temporary fame and a cheque of few dimes. I am not against it. But guys, especially to all the mothers, why can’t we teach our children about The Real Heroes ( we all are heroes to someone in someway..yo Bro! WE ARE!!!)

The Real Heroes are not who are acting. Those are actors, those are entertainers. The Real Heroes are on borders, in wars, who lay their lives for us. Who guard our motherland from enemies, without a single complain. So that we can sit in comfort of our homes peacefully and watch those entertainers on television.

Please dear all, especially mommies and youth learn, know, educate yourselves first about The Real Heroes. Then pass on the knowledge, show our children what it takes to be The Real Hero. Teach them to respect our flag, our National Anthem, our martyrs. Instill a feeling of pride and patriotism like any other emotion and values taught.

Teach them about Shaheed Bhagat Singh, Sukhdev, Rajguru, Vallabh bhai Patel. Many more magnificently historic freedom fighters. Like we teach about hare and the tortoise. As parents and guardians show our youth and children the way to become one of those Real Heroes. It’s absolutely their choice what path they choose to walk on. Least we can do is show them.

Mera Bharat Mahaan every single day ( not only on 26th January or 15th August) because of every single Real Super Hero from then to now.Let us remember them, thank them, celebrate their spirit, look up to them, take pride in their valour and salute their families every single day 🙌

Personal Note & BV Details#05

My dear parents and reader friends , the series of  blog posts  on being a parent  is all my personal experience. This blog marks the closure to my series of 05 blog posts. It is my growth, transition, discovery. As I penned in my introductory blog, it’s my journey within.  From a 1st time mommy to a person, may be who has become a lot  calmer, a lot  more sorted, a lot more  human, a lot more  content, a lot more grateful, above all a lot more ME!

I write on topics which are close to my heart. I try  to practise what I write, write  what I believe  in.  One of it, is Bala Vihar ( BV).  It’s the need for every child, irrespective  of any religion or community.


Greeting each other with a Hari Om! Jai Jinendra! Sat Sri Akal! Jai Shree Ram! Saying more of any one of these  would not make me less of my community or more of other. Also BV doesn’t  promote or support one particular  deity or any particular religion. The only statement-  is maximum happiness for maximum time, for maximum people!!!


Rather it will strengthen the roots of any religion for that matter become more acceptable towards people of other  community and grow together as a family around the world.


BV is a way to strengthen their roots and keep their heart to family, values, culture and realise  the essence of life.


Also it is absolutely  Free! Free! Free! It just costs your  time and effort to spare 90mins every  sunday mornings ( I understand sundays are lazy days). I see it  as a day to get charged up, it is like time to collect  all the super  powers within. All set to cast a spell on the world with your super power.


I will be lying if I say-  I did not dream of my child performing on stage or coming on television or getting medals or scoring 1st in sports and academics. We all do😁 It’s  just  that I realised (off late)  there is more to life than all this.  


I will  also be lying if don’t  mention that  when I was sick ( recently) all that mattered was how well he spoke to me, how patient and polite he was to me, how well he took care of me ( thoda over hogaya shayad, but it’s  a fact!). As a parent  we must  teach our  children what  actually  matters !


With so much of negativity around  it is important  to nurture positivity in our  child from childhood , as to they become responsible citizens and make not only us proud,  but live humbly proud of all what each one of us is blessed with.


Below is the link  of BV centre across Mumbai-

https://www.google.co.in/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.chinmayamissionmumbai.com/&ved=0ahUKEwiTtKLv2vfUAhXJrY8KHR5dA10QFghuMAU&usg=AFQjCNFGY5EN90WT9CV_WkBvtw0r_Bp9Dg


Chinmaya Mission official website-

www.chinmayamission.com

(It’s  a worldwide  NGO, they have centres across the world, you can always  google the centres  closest  to your house).


(P.S. – A heartfelt thank you to Swami Nirbhayanandji and Hems)


Here comes my blog stars!!!

Note of Gratitude to My Reader Friends:)

Hello my dear reader friends.How are you guys doing? Me doing super. I feel glad and proud that I have made successful 10 posts, taa daa in span of 11months (which is an achievement for me guys). Woo hoo!! Thank you soooooo much for your time and support,it is encouraging. 


Thank you to all my friends who helped me in one way or the other, sometimes being my editor ,at times answering my questions, helping me get better. Bas ab ro padungee, ittee khusheeeeeeee.LOL.


NOTE SPECIALLY TO MY FEMALE READERS-

I have this suggestion wherein  I  want your help, guidance , views,  thoughts to start this monthly series blog titled BEHNA ( sister) BLOGS. Wherein we talk just about anything and everything that matters to us. Just about whatever on earth. We can talk from anything  dead serious to just about any nonsense.

like-

* Why is that men are called ‘male chauvinist pigs’?

*Why women are so obsessed with how they are looking?

*Why is that ‘ek aurat hee dusri aurat ki dushman hoti hai’ ( one woman is the enemy of another woman)?

*Why is the percentage of women so less in military in India?

*How the hell does nagin ( television series in India) get highest TRPs?

*Why is that recently senseless lyrics sell in Indian cinema?


Behna Chup Na Rehna ( sisters don’t stay quiet)!

Just flood in with questions, suggestions, discussions. Damn with every worry, judgments ,repercussions. Just pen down whatever!


To – bakkbakkingjay@gmail.com


..dhishkyaau..dhishoom…!!!!

Areyy sunn naa.. pata chala… kya??? Woh hai naa 203 waale Sharma ji..wunki beti..haa wahi pehle number waali? haan haan.. Sunna tha chakkar chal raha hai, hogaya… ‘DIVORCE’…. Waaaahhh! One more new juicy gossip.Sooooooo much fun I tell you. Mazza aagaya!!! Aj khaanaa jyada jaayega pait mein..Strange… But true isn’t it???

Majority of us discuss someone’s personal life without having slightest knowledge on it. Dude!!… On second thoughts, why have knowledge???  Remember ‘GREAT MINDS DISCUSS IDEAS,  AVERAGE MINDS DISCUSS EVENTS,  SMALL MINDS DISCUSS PEOPLE’ said Eleanor Roosevelt. I say  ‘you choose… your mind’. And by the way how does anyone’s personal life affect us?….. Ohhh!!! Ohhh!!! Oh!!! Entertainment!!! Entertainment!!! Entertainment!!! Is it??? Chalo phir thik hai. Kuch toh entertainment hona chaiye life main. Woh bhi free free free.

Divorces pe essay nai likhna.Nor is that I wanna favour any gender. Or speak for and against it. Divorces these days are too common for whatever reasons or for no reason at all. It is possibly one of the most devastating decision of any couple’s life. It affects direct families and children. The shocking rise in rates of divorces, is questioning the very base of institution of marriage. Also affecting the social structures on the whole.                            

              Marraige is a beautiful institution.  Which enables two people involved grow, learn, nurture. Becoming the two most important pillars and foundation of having a family. Before deciding on marriage couples should not decide the circumstances, because circumstances are different post marriage. Keep it real,practical and not fanciful like hindi movies. I mean like those Barjatiya movies. LOL

             Moreover ‘divorcee mahila’ ko humarey sabhya  Bhartiya samajh main bohat I mean really bohat respect dee jaati hai. Ke bas aap poocho hee mat. Kahin  bhi jaao..toh khuss poos ‘ divorcee hai??’..’divorcee hai??’… ‘divorcee hai??’.. What the hell…alien nai, insaan hai. No one bloody hell call names to men.

Men get their prospective bride in a blink of an eye lid ( kabhi kabhi back to back do teen shaadiya…wah). Women are just pushed into a marriage, if the guy is rich or  poor. Bas mil gaya ladka kara do shaadi.I also think men are weaker emotionally than women ( mard ko dard nai hota,  agar ho bhi toh, who cares??? Kaun sunnta hai bechaarey ki).

According to me it’s not only a man and a wife bond.  But every beautiful bond is not easy. Actually anything beautiful in life is not easy. Hate is easy, Love isn’t. Rude is easy, Polite isn’t. Hurt is easy, Nurture isn’t. Letting Go is easy, Holding On isn’t. At the end it’s between you and yourself. Not between you and others. ‘What you seek. Is seeking you’- Rumi.

We are what we speak, above all what we speak for others, defines us and not them.’ BE A VOICE, NOT AN ECHO.’ Get a life mahn!!!! Seriously bro B-)