BB Post #01- On Emotions.

BB QUESTION NUMBER#01

I loooove hindi masala bollywood picha! (The best refresher). The premier of BB post has to be bollywood desi style. I love desi (indian) style, be it fashion or food. Couldn’t find a better song  to introduce our premier question which is on emotions.

So,

What is emotion?

Emotions roots from mind hence it has psychic effect on us. Our mind can always be trained. A Well trained mind is a powerful force to reckon with. Training our mind,emotions, so that

ye dil mera sajna emotional fool na ho!

( my heart beloved,doesn’t become emotional fool).

The Solution-

EI that’s Emotional Intelligence, see the following image-

How do we that?

LISTEN#PAUSE#THINK# SPEAK

HOLD ON#REPLY

#DO NOT REACT

#CALM IS SUPER POWER

REASON#QUESTION#YOUR#EMOTION

Mostly the negative one’s

ANGER#FEAR#CONTEMPT#SADNESS#DISGUST

Behna (sister) emotions are not to be accepted that’s when the problem arises!  Emotions are to be expressed, be it any kind, but mostly we should choose to express the positive one’s.

Human nature biggest problem is EXPECTATION!

Be a genuine guide, help, support to your loved ones , with or without they asking, do your duty. Then STEP BACK. Let them take the FINAL CALL ( this means no emotions involved in this, it’s purely facts and reasoning).  That’s how too many disappointments can be avoided and expectations too.Draw THE LINE!

Oh yes! Emotions make us look like fools, absolutely agree to it. It’s because emotions are very funny. For example – at times you want to kill that someone with fit of your anger and next moment you want to kill that person with your love. So you see,they just fool us!

They keep coming and going,one wrong move when our emotions are at its intensity (mostly the negative ones) we may end up hurting people, this backfires us, even if we are doing it out of love  and intentions are right. Here we need to apply our reasoning,our mind and heart combined ,shall help us avoid making us fool of ourselves.

Beautiful emotions create beauty around.Positive emotions,intentions create positive vibes wherever we go, that’s a contagious energy my sisters!!

General Protocol-

May be…

Men + Emotion= Anger

Women + Emotion = Drama/ Tantrums

And please behno( sisters) we should be not like hindi daily soaps,  cut the drama from real life. Any sensible person hates it. Also we don’t need to show them or anyone for that matter, that we need a shoulder to cry on or we are oh! so vulnerable, which we are not.

In Fact we are stronger than men in every way, just that at times we go overboard emotionally and men hide it or less expressive may be or just vent it in anger.

Vote of Thanks-

To  my Behna Mrs.Tak, for her courage to question, she shall be awarded BB trophy ( for premiere question) next month ( when question BB number 02 will be answered)  applause!!!

I hope I have answered your question satisfactorily! Well that’s my thought process,which all may not agree. So request all the other behnas (sisters) and male readers too,  please do put in your thoughts across in the comment box below the post.

 This is my way to connect with my reader friends across the globe.Thank you for your time. Happy Reading!

(P.S. My dear readers BB is a monthly blog, keep sending your questions. The identity can always remain anonymous.RAISE YOUR VOICE, see you next month. Until then

BeSafe#ScarePeopleAround#WithCalmness

BeRare#BeYou)

..dhishkyaau..dhishoom…!!!!

Areyy sunn naa.. pata chala… kya??? Woh hai naa 203 waale Sharma ji..wunki beti..haa wahi pehle number waali? haan haan.. Sunna tha chakkar chal raha hai, hogaya… ‘DIVORCE’…. Waaaahhh! One more new juicy gossip.Sooooooo much fun I tell you. Mazza aagaya!!! Aj khaanaa jyada jaayega pait mein..Strange… But true isn’t it???

Majority of us discuss someone’s personal life without having slightest knowledge on it. Dude!!… On second thoughts, why have knowledge???  Remember ‘GREAT MINDS DISCUSS IDEAS,  AVERAGE MINDS DISCUSS EVENTS,  SMALL MINDS DISCUSS PEOPLE’ said Eleanor Roosevelt. I say  ‘you choose… your mind’. And by the way how does anyone’s personal life affect us?….. Ohhh!!! Ohhh!!! Oh!!! Entertainment!!! Entertainment!!! Entertainment!!! Is it??? Chalo phir thik hai. Kuch toh entertainment hona chaiye life main. Woh bhi free free free.

Divorces pe essay nai likhna.Nor is that I wanna favour any gender. Or speak for and against it. Divorces these days are too common for whatever reasons or for no reason at all. It is possibly one of the most devastating decision of any couple’s life. It affects direct families and children. The shocking rise in rates of divorces, is questioning the very base of institution of marriage. Also affecting the social structures on the whole.                            

              Marraige is a beautiful institution.  Which enables two people involved grow, learn, nurture. Becoming the two most important pillars and foundation of having a family. Before deciding on marriage couples should not decide the circumstances, because circumstances are different post marriage. Keep it real,practical and not fanciful like hindi movies. I mean like those Barjatiya movies. LOL

             Moreover ‘divorcee mahila’ ko humarey sabhya  Bhartiya samajh main bohat I mean really bohat respect dee jaati hai. Ke bas aap poocho hee mat. Kahin  bhi jaao..toh khuss poos ‘ divorcee hai??’..’divorcee hai??’… ‘divorcee hai??’.. What the hell…alien nai, insaan hai. No one bloody hell call names to men.

Men get their prospective bride in a blink of an eye lid ( kabhi kabhi back to back do teen shaadiya…wah). Women are just pushed into a marriage, if the guy is rich or  poor. Bas mil gaya ladka kara do shaadi.I also think men are weaker emotionally than women ( mard ko dard nai hota,  agar ho bhi toh, who cares??? Kaun sunnta hai bechaarey ki).

According to me it’s not only a man and a wife bond.  But every beautiful bond is not easy. Actually anything beautiful in life is not easy. Hate is easy, Love isn’t. Rude is easy, Polite isn’t. Hurt is easy, Nurture isn’t. Letting Go is easy, Holding On isn’t. At the end it’s between you and yourself. Not between you and others. ‘What you seek. Is seeking you’- Rumi.

We are what we speak, above all what we speak for others, defines us and not them.’ BE A VOICE, NOT AN ECHO.’ Get a life mahn!!!! Seriously bro B-)