Personal Note & BV Details#05

My dear parents and reader friends , the series of  blog posts  on being a parent  is all my personal experience. This blog marks the closure to my series of 05 blog posts. It is my growth, transition, discovery. As I penned in my introductory blog, it’s my journey within.  From a 1st time mommy to a person, may be who has become a lot  calmer, a lot  more sorted, a lot more  human, a lot more  content, a lot more grateful, above all a lot more ME!

I write on topics which are close to my heart. I try  to practise what I write, write  what I believe  in.  One of it, is Bala Vihar ( BV).  It’s the need for every child, irrespective  of any religion or community.

Greeting each other with a Hari Om! Jai Jinendra! Sat Sri Akal! Jai Shree Ram! Saying more of any one of these  would not make me less of my community or more of other. Also BV doesn’t  promote or support one particular  deity or any particular religion. The only statement-  is maximum happiness for maximum time, for maximum people!!!

Rather it will strengthen the roots of any religion for that matter become more acceptable towards people of other  community and grow together as a family around the world.

BV is a way to strengthen their roots and keep their heart to family, values, culture and realise  the essence of life.

Also it is absolutely  Free! Free! Free! It just costs your  time and effort to spare 90mins every  sunday mornings ( I understand sundays are lazy days). I see it  as a day to get charged up, it is like time to collect  all the super  powers within. All set to cast a spell on the world with your super power.

I will be lying if I say-  I did not dream of my child performing on stage or coming on television or getting medals or scoring 1st in sports and academics. We all doūüėĀ It’s  just  that I realised (off late)  there is more to life than all this.  

I will  also be lying if don’t  mention that  when I was sick ( recently) all that mattered was how well he spoke to me, how patient and polite he was to me, how well he took care of me ( thoda over hogaya shayad, but it’s  a fact!). As a parent  we must  teach our  children what  actually  matters !

With so much of negativity around  it is important  to nurture positivity in our  child from childhood , as to they become responsible citizens and make not only us proud,  but live humbly proud of all what each one of us is blessed with.

Below is the link  of BV centre across Mumbai-

Chinmaya Mission official website-

(It’s  a worldwide  NGO, they have centres across the world, you can always  google the centres  closest  to your house).

(P.S. – A heartfelt thank you to Swami Nirbhayanandji and Hems)

Here comes my blog stars!!!

Bala Vihar#04

Children are not vessels to be filled, but Lamps to be lit – Swami Chinmayananda

Chinmaya Mission an organisation founded by a world renowned vedantic teacher Swami Chinmayananda, himself a lawyer, investigative journalist and a skeptic as he would call himself, found the joy & happiness hidden in the Upanishad & Sanatana dharma.

Chinmaya Mission believes in opening up the scriptures with it’s true authentic to the human world & allowing the people to unfold it them self. This organisation is spread into 30 countries. In INDIA it has more than 90 schools, university, hospitals and rural development projects.

The many activities is called the grass root activities where in free sessions happen for different age groups in various locations enriching how to bring in the richness of values into ones own living.

Shishu Vihar – For toddlers

Bala Vihar – For Children

Yuva Kendra – For Youths

Setukari – For Young Adults

Study Group – For adults (Men & Women)

Devi Group – ONLY for women

Vanaprashta – For Senoirs

Mission Statement

‚ÄúTo help children learn values with fun, to delight like the moon and shine like the sun‚ÄĚ

Children are the architects of tomorrow’s society. Men and women of moral character and cultural values build healthier societies.

Chinmaya Bala Vihar, known for its structured syllabus and workshops, holds weekly classes to help our next generation acquire these values and build stronger character. Bala Vihar enhances the overall development of the personality of a child at all levels ‚ÄĒ physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual.

At Vasai Balavihar bloomed in mid 90s under the guidance of late Shri CM Menon, a retired Indian Airlines officer and In 2016 it has taken it’s first step to INTERNATIONAL SYLLABUS SYSTEM.

What Matters…#03

What matters…

the Doctor? … Cerelac?….OR Right And Healthy Eating Habits!

the Kind of Diaper Pants?… Walker?… Teether?… OR The Right Use of it !

which Kindergarten?… OR Right Method Of Teaching!¬†

the Board?… College?…. OR The Management!

any Classes?… OR The Interest And Effort!

the Stream?… OR Dedication!

Job Profile?… OR Contentment!

Arrange Marriage?… Love Marriage??… OR Fulfillment!

Why are we so lost in the whole process of so many choices to choose from? why is that we are forgetting to get our basics right?

I realized (hopefully not very late),

It is not the tangible things that will bring about a difference, but intangible things cultivated throughout my child’s life span will bring a difference with our effort as parents and guardian.

As a parent I choose to nourish the roots with values, manners, build  character, teach to be more kind, calm, respectful, helpful, know various culture, rich traditions, build faith and trust, instill positivity , family system , inculcate a sense and appreciation for beauty around and most important teach-


However, it is  disheartening at times  to see my child still fretting, fuming, screaming, aggressive, lazy, stubborn, hoarder and many things which no mother or guardian would teach the child to be.

But there is always a way to make things more beautiful and wonderful, that is if we really want to.This beauty and joy, we found in BALA VIHAR( it is a part of CHINMAYA MISSION). Yes my dear fellow parents, it’s purely fun, positivity, vibrance, goodness, so much of pleasantness.

So what is BALA VIHAR ?

Bala – Children
Vihar – means a place to stay / dwell
Bala Vihar means a place for children to be ,where in the right values are given ( with the help of the scriptures).

As we go, the class begins with reciting hanuman chalisa, teacher tells a short story ( could be on God, on any upcoming festival or some value). Children ( 04- 11years)  are given  worksheets to colour. In Bala Vihar,  A  for ASPIRATION, B for BROTHERHOOD,  C for CLEANLINESS is taught. 

It is an interactive class, also recite mantras, sing and learn bhajans. My 05year old child  looks forward to attend the classes, he calls it OM classes. As teachers, volunteers, children greet each other with Hari Om! Every child feels special and wanted, every child is given a sweet at the end of  the class.

As a  parent I suggest all my fellow parents:

 As we take an extra effort to send our kids to dance,guitar , sports or whatever classes. I appeal to each one of you all to send your child to Bala Vihar, why? because I see all the other efforts in vain without Bala Vihar, one has to be there to experience it. I send my child because he enjoys going, he looks forward going, I see positive difference in my child, my child and I see a lot more beauty and appreciation around us, Hari Om!


( I must share this, I have told my child whenever he sees me getting angry, just ask me to say HARI OM, and same applies to him . Oh boy! It works:)Never forget – children are real copycats. So we must watch our actions and words first.)

And yes!  it will not make your child baba ( as in monk) and it is not meant only for certain Hindus or any particular community, all are welcomed with open arms. The aim of CHINMAYA MISSION is to create maximum happiness for maximum people for maximum time! That is if you really CHOOSE TO!

Parent’s Dilemma#02

….As a parent I too faced dilemmas like….

which child specialist¬†doctor¬†should I take my child??which¬†cerelac¬†to serve at what age???? ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†which kind of¬†diaper¬†pants would be most comfortable for my child??? ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†which¬†walker¬†and¬†teether¬†is safest for my child???( and the first time mommies,LOL, don’t ask! Me too by the way).

Now it gets a bit more serious like, ( it’s like make or break for my child ha!!! hehe).

which kindergarten I should send my child??? (local or established)

which board my child should study??? ( icse, cbse, state ,ib, and so many more, phew!!!)

what? where? and which?¬†classes¬†my child ¬†would go- dance, sports, music, drawing? ( what’s trending, may be guitar classes, cool!!).

And some more dilemmas continue like,( now bit more complex ones).

which stream should my child choose???

which college???

what job profile???

then arrange marriage or love???

‚Ķ‚Ķ.and on… and on… and on‚Ķ..

The saga continues.

My dear fellow parents it’s obvious we all want the best of the best for our children, at all the stages of their life. We as parent make an effort to give all the necessary, in fact more than necessary facilities to our child that they get better future than us.

There is tuitions, classes for academics ( intellectual assistance), varied classes for creative development of child ( polishing their skills) ,  sports activities (physical growth). All these  facilities we are providing as their guardian so that they would perform at best of their abilities in whatever they do. But in this hustle bustle, among intellectual development, physical activity and creative skills, are we missing on something?

Yes! we are. Thats their MIND! Before I go further, following is the basic  meaning given by oxford dictionary of intellect and mind-


the faculty of reasoning and understanding objectively, especially with regard to abstract matters.

the element of a person that enables them to be aware of the world and their experiences, to think, and to feel.

So friends how do we understand the MIND?

¬†Is it ¬†to be assumed that everyone does think, feel and understand but the question here is ¬†‘are we understanding it in the right perspective for a positive growth’.



(…to be continued in next blog.)


Child Growth#01

ROOTS signify STRENGTH.Strength of child depends mainly on what manure he/ she has been nourished with. The environment of a child in his growing years plays a very crucial role. 

WINGS signify LIMITLESS POSSIBILITIES. That surely we all wish for our children,but without firm roots all the possibilities seem to hold no value.

Let us first be clear with the concept of strength and get a bit more deeper meaning of it. I asked couple of friends what is their personal definition of strength.  I got varied answers, few of them were-
Strength is…..
…..inner power to fight against all odds!
……ability to withstand pressure!
…..freedom, inner voice, truth, confidence, affection, knowledge, good health!
……grace under pressure!
…..God,Family, Friends, Kids!
……is about mental strength and not merely physical!
To me Strength is …..
…….speaking when wrong is said or done. Strength is to rise as an optimist amongst world full of pessimist. Strength is fighting with your undying faith for goodness and beauty of life . Strength is courage to be yourself. Patience, balance and calmness is strength. Strength is being true to myself. Strength is owning the every flaws, goods, bads, mistakes , every action of mine.¬†
Your strength is what builds you or breaks you in this journey of life.

Let us quickly go through as to what the science of early childhood development .
The science of early brain development can inform investments in early childhood. These basic concepts, established over decades of neuroscience and behavioral research, help illustrate why child development‚ÄĒparticularly from birth to five years‚ÄĒis a foundation for a prosperous and sustainable society.
Brains are built over time, from the bottom up.Early experiences affect the quality of that architecture by establishing either a sturdy or a fragile foundation for all of the learning, health and behavior that follow. 

In the proliferation and pruning process, simpler neural connections form first, followed by more complex circuits. The timing is genetic, but early experiences determine whether the circuits are strong or weak. The interactive influences of genes and experience shape the developing brain.

Scientists now know a major ingredient in this developmental process is the ‚Äúserve and return‚ÄĚ relationship between children and their parents and other caregivers in the family or community.¬†

The brain’s capacity for change decreases with age.
The brain is most flexible, or ‚Äúplastic,‚ÄĚ early in life to accommodate a wide range of environments and interactions, but as the maturing brain becomes more specialized to assume more complex functions, it is less capable of reorganizing and adapting to new or unexpected challenges.

Cognitive, emotional, and social capacities are inextricably intertwined throughout the life course.

Emotional well-being and social competence provide a strong foundation for emerging cognitive abilities, and together they are the bricks and mortar that comprise the foundation of human development. The emotional and physical health, social skills, and cognitive-linguistic capacities that emerge in the early years are all important prerequisites for success in school and later in the workplace and community.

Positive stress (moderate, short-lived physiological responses to uncomfortable experiences) is an important and necessary aspect of healthy development, toxic stress is the strong, unrelieved activation of the body’s stress management system. 

Policy Implication
A balanced approach (is questionable these days) to emotional, social, cognitive, and language development will best prepare all children for success in school and later in the workplace and community.
Supportive relationships and positive learning experiences begin at home but can also be provided through a range of services (here comes BALVIHAR CLASSES!!!!) with proven effectiveness factors. 

[Suggested citation: The Science of Early Childhood Development (InBrief). Retrieved from http://www.developing]

( Cut to parent’s dilemma….in next blog post)