Parent’s Dilemma#02

….As a parent I too faced dilemmas like….

which child specialist doctor should I take my child??which cerelac to serve at what age????                            which kind of diaper pants would be most comfortable for my child???                                                                            which walker and teether is safest for my child???( and the first time mommies,LOL, don’t ask! Me too by the way).

Now it gets a bit more serious like, ( it’s like make or break for my child ha!!! hehe).

which kindergarten I should send my child??? (local or established)

which board my child should study??? ( icse, cbse, state ,ib, and so many more, phew!!!)

what? where? and which? classes my child  would go- dance, sports, music, drawing? ( what’s trending, may be guitar classes, cool!!).

And some more dilemmas continue like,( now bit more complex ones).

which stream should my child choose???

which college???

what job profile???

then arrange marriage or love???

…….and on… and on… and on…..

The saga continues.

My dear fellow parents it’s obvious we all want the best of the best for our children, at all the stages of their life. We as parent make an effort to give all the necessary, in fact more than necessary facilities to our child that they get better future than us.

There is tuitions, classes for academics ( intellectual assistance), varied classes for creative development of child ( polishing their skills) ,  sports activities (physical growth). All these  facilities we are providing as their guardian so that they would perform at best of their abilities in whatever they do. But in this hustle bustle, among intellectual development, physical activity and creative skills, are we missing on something?

Yes! we are. Thats their MIND! Before I go further, following is the basic  meaning given by oxford dictionary of intellect and mind-


the faculty of reasoning and understanding objectively, especially with regard to abstract matters.

the element of a person that enables them to be aware of the world and their experiences, to think, and to feel.

So friends how do we understand the MIND?

 Is it  to be assumed that everyone does think, feel and understand but the question here is  ‘are we understanding it in the right perspective for a positive growth’.



(…to be continued in next blog.)


Child Growth#01

ROOTS signify STRENGTH.Strength of child depends mainly on what manure he/ she has been nourished with. The environment of a child in his growing years plays a very crucial role. 

WINGS signify LIMITLESS POSSIBILITIES. That surely we all wish for our children,but without firm roots all the possibilities seem to hold no value.

Let us first be clear with the concept of strength and get a bit more deeper meaning of it. I asked couple of friends what is their personal definition of strength.  I got varied answers, few of them were-
Strength is…..
…..inner power to fight against all odds!
……ability to withstand pressure!
…..freedom, inner voice, truth, confidence, affection, knowledge, good health!
……grace under pressure!
…..God,Family, Friends, Kids!
……is about mental strength and not merely physical!
To me Strength is …..
…….speaking when wrong is said or done. Strength is to rise as an optimist amongst world full of pessimist. Strength is fighting with your undying faith for goodness and beauty of life . Strength is courage to be yourself. Patience, balance and calmness is strength. Strength is being true to myself. Strength is owning the every flaws, goods, bads, mistakes , every action of mine. 
Your strength is what builds you or breaks you in this journey of life.

Let us quickly go through as to what the science of early childhood development .
The science of early brain development can inform investments in early childhood. These basic concepts, established over decades of neuroscience and behavioral research, help illustrate why child development—particularly from birth to five years—is a foundation for a prosperous and sustainable society.
Brains are built over time, from the bottom up.Early experiences affect the quality of that architecture by establishing either a sturdy or a fragile foundation for all of the learning, health and behavior that follow. 

In the proliferation and pruning process, simpler neural connections form first, followed by more complex circuits. The timing is genetic, but early experiences determine whether the circuits are strong or weakThe interactive influences of genes and experience shape the developing brain.

Scientists now know a major ingredient in this developmental process is the “serve and return” relationship between children and their parents and other caregivers in the family or community. 

The brain’s capacity for change decreases with age.
The brain is most flexible, or “plastic,” early in life to accommodate a wide range of environments and interactions, but as the maturing brain becomes more specialized to assume more complex functions, it is less capable of reorganizing and adapting to new or unexpected challenges.

Cognitive, emotional, and social capacities are inextricably intertwined throughout the life course.

Emotional well-being and social competence provide a strong foundation for emerging cognitive abilities, and together they are the bricks and mortar that comprise the foundation of human development. The emotional and physical health, social skills, and cognitive-linguistic capacities that emerge in the early years are all important prerequisites for success in school and later in the workplace and community.

Positive stress (moderate, short-lived physiological responses to uncomfortable experiences) is an important and necessary aspect of healthy development, toxic stress is the strong, unrelieved activation of the body’s stress management system. 

Policy Implication
A balanced approach (is questionable these days) to emotional, social, cognitive, and language development will best prepare all children for success in school and later in the workplace and community.
Supportive relationships and positive learning experiences begin at home but can also be provided through a range of services (here comes BALVIHAR CLASSES!!!!) with proven effectiveness factors. 

[Suggested citation: The Science of Early Childhood Development (InBrief). Retrieved from http://www.developing]

( Cut to parent’s dilemma….in next blog post)