BB question #02
Namaste🙏 dear readers. Thank you for an interesting question pyari (loving) sundar (beautiful) behna (sister).
Is it effortless for each one of us to unravel the secret of our existence? May be not. But it ain’t unobtainable either.
All of us have fears. We all feel afraid. It is natural to fear like it is to feel jealous, grief, love, anger. These are considered the five basic emotions in humans.
I remember distinctly as a kid the dread of teacher approaching to check my homework which was incomplete (am I saying I never completed my homework?😝 nevermind!). Fear as silly as crossing a road in the midst of rush hour or just walking through a passage where bunch of boys playing cricket and you anticipate the ball is gonna hit me now! now! now! I walk by hurriedly, damn fun ( that’s a different thing now everyone freezes when I pass by😉 LOL).
I wasn’t like when I see a cockroach/ lizard jump off my bed like a maniac (I always found my siblings and the way they reacted was silly) and reach upto the fan as if these crawlies are gonna take my life away. Who would always shoo them away,brave girl me!!! (enough of my acts of valour😎). I grew with silly fears one more was if I scream a lot I may lose my voice (damn! anyway I sound scratchy/ husky) that was horrible.
I eventually realised and I still believe…
As a teenager…
As an adult…
Fear is a survival mechanism.The survival function of the human brain is primarily located in the old, animal part of the human brain. The mechanism that our brain utilizes to keep us safe is very similar to how animals brain functions to keep them safe. This is called the Fight/Flight/Freeze mechanism.
Definition of fear– Sense of “uneasiness caused by possible danger” is “fear”. A feeling of agitation and dread caused by the presence or imminence of danger.
The purpose of fear– Is to protect ourselves. There are only two biologically natural, innate fears: (1) the fear of falling, and (2) the fear of loud noises.
Every other “fear” we’ve learned. The good news is, we can unlearn it. (It often takes getting help and practicing.) The purpose of fear is to slow us down, to keep us cautious, to keep us safe.
Learned fear – Learning by observing others. 97 percent of what we worry over is not much more than a fearful mind punishing you with exaggerations and misperceptions.
Some distortions of fear are phobias and anxiety.
Anxiety is the fear connected with worrying about danger that might happen.Everyone feels anxious now and then. It’s a normal emotion.
For example, you may feel nervous when faced with a problem at work, before taking a test, or before making an important decision.
(Me..feel terribly anxious when I have to go on stage. LOL)
A phobia is an intense fear of specific things, like dogs or spiders or riding in elevators.
People with phobias may go to great lengths to avoid any situation that might bring them face to face with the object of their fear. Because of all the worry and avoidance, a phobia can interfere with a person’s everyday life.
Fear in different stages of our life-
Fear in an unborn child- Research suggests that women who lack a protective enzyme (present in the placenta) in the womb affect their unborn child with their stress/ fear. The enzyme seems to be a barrier to stress hormones and deactivates them.
Fear in infants– Fears of animals, loud noises, may fear strangers or being in water are common.
Fear in toddlers– Fear of monsters, ghosts, and witches.These imaginary things can seem dangerous.
Fear in older children-Fear of burglars, fear of getting hurt or lost, or fear of natural disasters like earthquakes or extreme weather like hurricanes.
Fear in adolescents (top ten)- Fear of failure, rejection, criticism, change, gossip, embarrassment, inadequacy, disappointing, intimidation, injury.
Fear in teenagers – Fear of first job, going on blind date, being grounded, being banned from social media, having their phone confiscated.
Fear in adults– Fear of losing freedom, unknown, pain, disappointment, misery, loneliness, ridicule, rejection, death, failure.
Fear in LIFE throughout – Fear of success, being judged, emotional pain, embarrassment, expressing true feelings, rejection, intimacy, loss, unknown, death.
Phew!!! Fear seldom abandon us. It’s face keeps changing with change in our personage (mind, body). It may increase or decrease with time.
Our fear defines our growth…we live/ survive… To be continued:)
So what is your take on fear? do mention in the comment section below.
Also, time for some introspection and to decipher whether you are still living in the trap of learned fear (97 percent) or natural/ innate (03 percent).
#Question yourself… for that is the right way to get closer to your own nature as the journey travelled within is worth than discovering unknown islands without. Don’t you foreget-
NO ONE IS YOU AND THAT IS YOUR POWER.
P.S. This post is not meant for people who believe their own lies, live in self denial, ignorance, false identity of self (see I can be rude too. LOL).